Children and Youth Who Have Difficulty Completing Projects

Children and youth who have been born by Caesarian section often have trouble completing on projects or instructions.  Some carry the feeling of not fitting in as a human being because they have not done the rite of passage as a human of coming through the birth canal. The rituals, ceremonies, sacredness and naturalness of birth has been replaced in our times by the sterility of hospitals and surgical instruments and the growing number of Caesarian sections being performed every year.  We can be thankful for the gift of having both mothers and children’s lives saved and trauma reduced because of C-sections.   However over the last decade in Canada and the United States, this number of C-sections being performed has skyrocketed….apparently because its more convenient for doctors and for women.  Natural birth has its own perfect design and place in our lives as human beings as does the dying and death process.  And sometimes it seems as though the knowledge and wisdom of the two most sacred rites of passage: birth and death  have temporarily been lost. 

Every experience of our lives is imprinted upon our cells.  Every unfinished process in the first years of our lives creates a template for incompletion and it is one that will inevitably seek completion.  Every perceived traumatic experience leaves an imprint and ultimately will seek to be healed.    Coming through the birth passage is the first rite of passage of any human being on this planet.  As with any rite of passage for a child’s spirit and soul, it involves some fear and trepidation as a child leaves the comfortable, safe environment of the womb to come out into an unknown world that will bring new experiences.  A child will also pick up on parental fear.  

 Each child’s passage is different and precious…suited for their own soul development.  Whenever humanly possible, it is important that a child be given the time and space to come down and through the birth canal in his or her own time and to complete this journey.  Thus he or she goes through his or her own rite of passage witnessed by his or her parents and those who will love and care for the child.  Then a child learns that the world is a place that  both waits for and welcomes him or her and honours his or her process.  When a child has been born via C-section or has been pulled with forceps then he or she may have trouble completing things in his or her life because he or she did not complete this rite of passage by himself or herself.  

He or she may also “feel different” than other children because he or she has not completed the rite of passage to go from the world of spirit or soul and incarnations in other places in our cosmos to this incarnation as a human being on this planet.    Having coached  many children and youth (and adults) to breakthrough unhealthy patterns that they keep repeating in their lives and that are causing them to suffer emotionally and in other ways; I find that a child or youth who has been C-sectioned  or has suffered a traumatic birth is often eager to do a ceremony of rebirth.  In other words the piece that heals the emotional trauma is actually very simple. 

The Rebirthing Ceremony

It is important that the child or youth guide the ceremony and the environment.  Ask him or her where he or she would like to have the ceremony of rebirth.    Ask who he or she wants to have present at the ceremony.   If you are a parent have someone else who is capable understands rituals and ceremonies and the importance of rites of passage, facilitate the ceremony for you and your child.  It is important that you are present for your child and yourself. This rite of passage and this ceremony is also healing for women who might have wanted to give birth naturally but for whatever reason were not able to.  

Children who have experienced birth as being traumatic often withhold themselves from experiences in life because their first experience of this planet was one of trauma. They often do not feel welcome on the planet and indeed if there were emergency procedures going on at their birth, there may not have been the time to really honour their coming to the planet.  Thus an important piece is having someone to warmly welcome the child or youth as he or she comes through the simulated passage.  Someone who is loving and caring stands with open arms and says “Welcome to the world, we’ve been waiting for you!!!  We love and honour your presence on this planet and amongst us.  We welcome all of the gifts that you bring with you.  We support you to fulfill your full human and divine potential on this planet.”

There are more aspects of this ceremony that you can read about in my upcoming book.  Suffice it to say, a simple ceremony like this to honour the birth of a youth or child unwinds and heals any unresolved issues that happened at the time of physical birth on Earth.    You will find a big difference with your child or youth, an ability to complete, more self-confidence and self-esteem.

May all beings be blessed to have the loving, nurturing birth that we all want and deserve!